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I Don’t Think He Deserves It: 3 Reasons Why A Wife Should Respect Her Husband

“  However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” –Ephesians 5:33

Honestly, often times this has really been a struggle for me especially after each of our arguments recently and every time I would feel unloved by my husband.

But even during those times, I know deep within my heart that I have to obey God in respecting my husband if I want to have a stronger and happier marriage.

Why Should A Wife Respect Her Husband

  1.   It is God’s command

I firmly believe that there is always a blessing in obedience and I   want to receive such blessing. So, I will respect my husband.

“Wives, respect and obey your husbands in the same way. Then the husbands who do not obey the word of God will want to know God. They will want to know God because their wives live good lives, even though they say nothing about God.” –1 Peter 3:1

  1.    Respect begets respect

Well, I acknowledge that often times I need to feel loved by my husband. I want to feel respected and for my husband to appreciate every effort I exert for our family’s betterment .

 In the same way, my husband needs my respect.

For the husbands, RESPECT is LOVE. Let respect be the by-product of our love for our husbands. Even if we feel that they do not deserve it, we will still choose to respect our husbands. If we do this, we will also receive the love and respect that we are longing for from our husbands.

“So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” –Matthew 7:12

  1.    To have a happy and blessed marriage

If the husband loves his wife and the wife respects her husband, what can be happier than that?

Sometimes when it is really hard for me to respect him for some reasons, I always conduct a self talk. Yup, I know that it is quite unusual, but self talking helps me control my attitude. I always tell my self that if I want my marriage to be happy and blessed for the sake of the vow we promised with God as our witness and for the sake of our children, I need to respect my husband.  He is not a perfect husband but I know God gave him to me because he is perfect for the imperfect me.

To get married is actually very easy than to keep a marriage happy and blessed. It is really very difficult unless you put God in the center of the marriage.

“  However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” –Ephesians 5:33

Ways on How I Show Respect for My Husband

  1. Respect his leadership and his decisions for the family

Sometimes, our opinions are not in agreement with each other. But After 9 years of marriage, I learned to pray to God for Him to help me trust my husband with his decisions. I also pray to God for Him to give  my husband wisdom in everything that he does. I also pray for my own heart and mind, so I can submit to my husband as God wants me to.

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.” –Ephesians 5:22-23

  1.  Respect and appreciate his work 

I am my husband’s #1 cheerleader and I see to it that in everything he does, I always boost his morale. My husband feels happy every time I appreciate the hard work he had done and is doing for our family. No matter how much he brings to the table, he should feel encouraged, appreciated and loved always. In this way, he can be more productive in everything he does.

“Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it’s in your power to help them .”-Proverbs 3:27

 3. Do not talk poorly against  your husband

My husband and I were classmates and co-workers as well so it is normal for us to critique each other openly in the public.

And sometimes, because of some disagreements and different opinions, it is difficult to not talk against him especially when we are around our closest friends, family and colleagues.

But since “to be intentional” is my goal this 2017, I am doing my best to intentionally praise my husband’s goodness in public and caution him with his shortcomings in private. I know that nagging will only bring discouragement and frustration to both of us. It will do more harm than progress in our marriage.

” Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.” – Ephesians 4:15

4.  Respect his intimacy

A husband is wired by God to have intimacy with his wife sexually, physically and emotionally. For my husband’s joy and satisfaction, I am doing my best to make myself not only beautiful in the inside but also in the outside. He is more happy and inspired when I dress up and look pretty.

“You are beautiful, my darling,  beautiful beyond words. Your eyes are like doves behind your veil.Your hair falls in waves, like a flock of goats winding down the slopes of Gilead.Your teeth are as white as sheep, recently shorn and freshly washed.Your smile is flawless,each tooth matched with its twin.Your lips are like scarlet ribbon;your mouth is inviting.Your cheeks are like rosy pomegranates behind your veil.”- Solomon 4:1-3

 5. Pray for your husband

Like me, my husband is also not perfect. He is also a work in progress, still growing and getting better by the grace of God each day. As my husband’s support , I always pray for him instead of always complaining about him not doing the things that I expect him to do.

I pray for my husband to prosper in all areas of his life such us work, finances,his role as my husband, and as a father to our children, his spiritual relationship with God, etc.

I believe that if you cannot change his heart, trust that God can.

  ” Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7

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